3 Most Important Things Couples Should Know
1.The Couple Should Depart From Their Parents Home
Besides physically leaving their parents' homes, both the husband and wife are to become emotionally and financially independent as well. The marriage relationship—and the new family that has been created—is to be the primary source of emotional health, financial provision, security, and protection for the couple.
A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers. Robert Quillen
Indisputably, the bonds of love for one's parents are everlasting, but these connections are to change. I advise that the couple will not make an absolute break from their parents, but they must realize that they are now a family, and they really need to make their own decisions. Again, the new husband and wife must have greater loyalty to each other than to their parents.
If it was nowadays, we call it honeymoon this is the short period of time the couple give to themselves for relaxation, blending in marriage just like an early Jewish custom was that the husband was to do nothing the first year of marriage just to get to know his wife. That's how important commitment was to the Jewish family. This meant the husband would not go to war or go out for work. This is applicable to the new bride was to learn about her new husband. No distractions along the way.
Pour your sweet feelings out and shower your partner what their hearts desire.
Now it is very important we show our spouse how important they're in our lives. We show our spouse that he or she holds that number one spot when, at every level we leave our parents' house. Here I understand that my husband cannot freely give to me until he knows in his heart that I see him as more important to me than any other person in my life. Same thing is applied to me, I need to know that I am the most important person in his life before I can be fully committed to him.
2. The Couple Should Be Bonded to One Another Permanently.
Permanence is very neccessary though our culture this day doesn't value it but for a godly home, and to build a strong marriage relationship. Permanence doesn't happen automatically. I and my spouse should adapt this and it can only take time, and work but I believe that the reward of the hard work will make the work well worth the effort exerted.
I and my husband left our parents' homes to set up a home of our own. It becomes very possible because we are decisive not to live in the same house with our parents even though it would be economical.
We spend ample time together, leaving aside friends distractions and hangouts to concentrate and to have more time for each other.
Reserving our bedroom for love and happiness, in order not to allow distractions we keep away everything that could distract us like television for watching football match, or seeing movies, or the late news. This is because we know we should provide happiness to each other in bedroom.
3. Importance Of Oneness
When you have succeeded in Staying permanent, like you vowed in the alter that you shall become one at the alter when you say your vows to one another before our Creator. Practically, oneness between a husband and wife is a process that happens over a period of time and over their lifetime together.
The leaving, joining in permanence, and oneness, results in a new identity in which two people become one. This means, one in mind, heart, body and spirit. This should not be only in physical nakednes but also nakedness of the spirit and emotion. We are free from all guilt and shame before our mates. This foundation will stand the test of time. Read also, the best way to fall in love.
Knowing our mates and bonding with them is one of the greatest gift we can offer to our marriage relationship to build a strong and unbreakable home.
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