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How Temperament Affects Your Relationship

The kindest and the happiest pair will will find occassion to forebear; and something everyday they live, to pity, and perhaps forgive.                                                                                 William Cowper

You are aware that your partner doesn't react to situations, people, or life in general the way you do. Don't get it twisted, the reason is simple—

God made your partner different from you. Meanwhile the difference is undoubtedly part of what made her attractive to you in the first place. Now these differences may escalate to be a real source of irritation. They may even be affecting your love for each other. But that doesn't have to be the case.

The truth remains that understanding temperament styles can help you bridge the conflicts and strengthen your relationship. It is good to know—it is important to look at your weaknesses as well as your strengths. Because we all proudly look at our strengths, but few of us like to confront the negative aspects of our personalities. Nobody would want to hear negative things or attributes to it. I mean who will like to hear they are brassy, interruptive, frank, manipulative, insecure, or moody?

But if our goal is to know ourselves, then we must look into the mirror and acknowledge everything about us. Then will we be able to decide what to do about those  negative traits. 

The only way of attaining a perfect love is by loving.

When we talk about temperament most of your  traits probably fall into two categories, although some people will have traits in all four areas. But your focus should be which two do most of your personality traits fall under?

We have Sanguine–cholerics which are the outgoing, optimistic people. They make excellent leaders. They are the two most common combinations. Melancholy—phlegmatic are cautious, introverted folks who like quiet, reflective thinking. Melancholy—choleric is another perfect combination, denoting a strong and organized person who accomplishes much and really likes to work.

After carefully examining yourself of your personality profile, spend some time thinking about this. You can go ahead to ask your partner or someone close to you how accurate your temperament descriptions fit you. We should learn to acknowledge and accept our weaknesses too. And to love our partner despite their weaknesses, help them to overcome them. We can also stop trying to change others and allow them to be themselves. When we allow our partner to be different from us, then our relationship will definitely improve.

Learn to accept completely and wholeheartedly those areas where your partner is different from you. Learn from them. Also offer your strengths where your partner is weak, and let their strengths complement your weaknesses. Here you go a stronger relationship pops up!


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